When Should You Choose Your Wedding Party?

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If you just got engaged, chances are you’re MORE than a little excited. But if you just said “Yes!” you’ll want to take a minute (or several) to get your ducks in a row before you ask your BFF’s to be in your wedding party. Below are the things you should DEFINITELY do before you choose your wedding party ,and when to let them know:

Pick a Venue/Date

As soon as you settle on your wedding budget you’ll want to start your wedding venue search. The wedding venue you end up with will determine your guest list, which might end up helping you decide just how many bridesmaids and groomsmen you should have.

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While the average number in a wedding party is 4 bridesmaids/4 groomsmen, some couple want 5, 6, 7, even 8 people on each side. But a lot of times you won’t be able to accommodate that many people next to you in your ceremony space.

Get on the Same Page With Your Future Spouse

Do you want to include his sister? Or what about his sister-in-law? This is where it can get a bit complicated, so you’ll want to make sure to talk to your fiance about who you want to include in your wedding parties.

So, with both of those things done, when should you finally ask your bridesmaids to be in your wedding? We think at least 8 months before the wedding is ideal (and longer if it’s a destination wedding). This way you (and them) will have enough time to figure out the details and make sure you’re all in this together.

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