Once the most important dress-shopping experience is complete (the bride’s, duh!), it’ll eventually come time for both the mother of the bride and mother of the groom to purchase their own gowns. Lucky for them (and you), there aren’t too many rules that will limit their style choices, it’s all completely up to you and your mom (or future MIL). One of the best ways to shop for mother of the bride dresses is in-person, or by sending your mom a few links online to show her styles you like (that you think would look amazing) and hopefully she can buy a few to try on. Macy’s dresses are a great option because your mom can visit the store in person first to see what their selection is, then order more online if she doesn’t find something she likes (or vice versa).
Just remember that above all else, this experience should be fun! Chances are your mom has a few ideas about what she likes, and it’s up to you to support them. Your may might be nervous about the experience, so it’s important to be encouraging while also providing suggestions for colors you think might work best based on your wedding theme. Now, on to the fun stuff!
When Should Your Mom Start Shopping?
Traditionally, the mother of the bride will buy her dress first; then, the mother of the groom will follow her lead. To allow time for shipping and alterations, the mother of the bride should plan on buying her dress 6 or 7 months before the wedding date. Though keep in mind one of the benefit of Macy’s dresses is you can often find a style that’s either ready to ship within days, or one that you can buy right off the rack.
It also helps if you make sure you and your S.O.’s mothers keep an open line of communication throughout the process. They don’t need to send the details of their shopping trips to one another, but at the very least, they should know what the other is wearing to avoid any snafus (like matching or clashing). Or if they live in the same city, maybe it could be fun if they went shopping together!
As we mentioned earlier as well, it’s important to provide some guidance for the both moms. You can go about this two different ways. One, you can ask to be consulted before an actual purchase is made. Or two, just explain your general vision for what they should wear. If you opt for the latter, it would be helpful to describe ideal styles and colors, or let them know if there are any dress codes at your ceremony or reception venue. You should also remind them of any weather issues, such as whether or not they might need a matching wrap if it’s cold outside.
What Should the Mother of the Bride Avoid Wearing?
While this is a personal choice, both moms should avoid wearing a white or ivory/champagne dress. Unless of course you WANT them to wear white…it’s totally up to you! The mother of the bride and/or groom will also want to make sure they do not wear dresses that are too similar to the bridesmaid dresses. However if they can find a dress that complements the bridesmaids’, that is perfect!
Where Should You Shop for Dresses?
It’s best to start online and look for styles that you think your mom might like. Or have your mom take a look and send you some ideas and go from there. When it comes to Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom dresses, we’re a fan of ordering from larger stores (like Macy’s) that have great return policies in case something does fit once you try it on at home. And just like your wedding dress shopping, be sure mom tries on the dress with the shoe heel height she plans on wearing, along with the undergarments.
Find the Best Style…Together!
Regardless of how involved you want to be, make sure you consider the personal styles of your mom and your S.O.’s mom. They definitely shouldn’t feel uncomfortable on your big day! We’ve gathered a few Macy’s dresses that are sure to leave both the mother of the bride and mother of the groom feeling as confident as ever. We love Macy’s dresses because not only do they have a great selection, but their sales often make dresses up to 40% off. So be sure to get on their e-mail list, or on your mom’s next visit to the store, have her connect with a salesperson to keep them informed.
Our Favorite Macy’s Dresses
These dresses are beautiful for a wedding and beyond. Not only can each of these Macy’s dresses easily be worn again, but they are all relatively affordable, especially if you can take advantage of one of their big sales!
Xscape Embellished Scuba Gown, from $222
Dreamy details. Xscape takes a simple navy gown and gives it an unexpected twist with the addition of beaded sleeves.
Eliza J Sequin V-Neck Gown, from $124
Burgundy is a big trend this year and beyond. Eliza J hits the mark on this gorgeously sequined gown.
A captivating ruffled cascade (that’s also available in green!) showers Jessica Howard’s halter gown with sophistication.
XSCAPE Embellished Chiffon Gown, from $299
Graceful and elegant, this flowing chiffon gown from XSCAPE comes alive with sparkling beads and sequins throughout the bodice.
Xscape Caviar Beaded Drape-Back Gown, from $230
Be the picture of elegance and grace in this Xscape gown that’s perfect for a black tie wedding.
Adrianna Papell’s intricately beaded and sequined style has just the right amount of shimmer and shine.
Vince Camuto Embellished-Neck Capelet Gown, from $197
With a flowing capelet and glittering embellishment on the neckline, this gown feels luxurious without the luxury price.
An elegant satin ribbon accentuates the waistline of this glamorous gown from R & M Richards, dazzling with sequins and godet pleats.
XSCAPE Off-The Shoulder Gown, from $159
With a beautiful neckline and ruched waist, this dress is available in pine, black, and navy.
J Kara Embellished 3/4-Sleeve Gown, from $134
Airy chiffon flows gracefully from the beautiful beaded and sequin-embellished bodice of this 3/4-sleeve gown from J Kara.
Shimmery sheer sleeves and sweetheart styling all contribute to the princess vibe given off by this ultra-glamorous Alex Evenings gown.
Adrianna Papell Plus Size Beaded Dress, from $329
The Macy’s dresses from Adrianna Papell always bring back classic glamour with a modern spin, like this pretty beaded sheath that can go from a daytime to evening wedding in a snap.
This shimmering XSCAPE gown is pleated to enhance your shape.
Jessica Howard Portrait-Collar A-Line Dress , from $109
Both classic and contemporary, this Jessica Howard silhouette is a vision with its contrasting hues and crisp design details, like folded, buttoned cuffs and a gorgeous portrait collar.
kensie Lace Fit & Flare Dress, from $80
You’ll shimmer & shine all night long in this glittery-metallic masterpiece. It’s accentuated at the waist for a flattering fit.
XSCAPE Lace-Sleeve Chiffon Gown, from $139
Mixing, mingling or making a toast, this gorgeous gown from XSCAPE fits the bill perfectly with pretty lace sleeves and a chiffon skirt.
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