One of the best ways to figure out what you should and shouldn’t have at your wedding is to think about all the times you’ve gone to a wedding and HATED something about it.
That time the ceremony went on and on? Try to make it short and sweet. Or what about that time you left a wedding starving? Make sure your caterer is prepared for the right guest count.
These Reddit users recently started a thread detailing their biggest complaint as a wedding guest, and they ALL ring true. Check them out, below. It could help to go through them and see what you might need to change when planning your wedding.
Can you relate to any of these wedding day complaints?
I can deal with a cash bar, although I’m not a huge fan, as long as I know about it beforehand. No ATM and no previous knowledge that it would be a cash bar? I’ll admit I start complaining there.-maedeator
Not enough food, or having to wait too long to eat! Specifically, I’ve noticed at a few weddings lately that there was not enough/any food during cocktail hour. This leads to people getting way too drunk too fast, getting hangry, and overeating at dinner. I’m a grown up, and can pay for drinks and get myself around if necessary, but if you have me hostage and I can’t get food…. Grrr.-robotneedslove
Tiny gift registries, and/or gift registries with little variation in price points. I attended a wedding once and waited until the day before to get a gift (bad choice, I know). By the time I got to the store to buy a gift, there were a handful of items left, all well over my college-student price range for $25 or under.-Eruannwen
I…get slightly annoyed when the “festivities” aren’t bunched together. For instance, the bouquet toss, half hour of dancing, cake cutting, half hour of dancing, money dance, etc., etc. Once open dance starts, it’s kind of a buzzkill to be forced to stop periodically, or miss something because you stepped outside and didn’t realize it was about to happen.-maedeator
Not knowing what was happening at the reception. I understand that the couple want to keep some things secret, but people will miss the bouquet toss etc. because they stepped outside and thought there would only be more dancing for another 1/2 hour.-Green7000
Being treated as a second-class guest (for instance, being seated in a “B” section in a different room from the “A” list guests)-Wedding_face
Lonnnggggg boring speeches from multiple family/friends! Of course have speeches, but give everyone a time limit and keep it to a minimum. Then let everyone drink, dance and have a merry good time!-Nicky2385
Not knowing what’s in the food or drinks. With an allergy to red dye, I have to avoid it in just about everything, if I’m not sure what’s in it and can’t get more than an “I don’t know” from the caterer or bartender, I won’t touch it.-faultybluebox
Carbs people! Provide them to prevent hangry guests!-BaconGoddess21
Knowing the dress code. I’ve been overdressed for weddings twice and its a little embarrassing…-WhineyThePooh
There you have it. Sometimes it’s some of the most common sense advice that can help give you some perspective when wedding planning (i.e.: DON’T OVERTHINK IT!). Everyone from your groom to your bridesmaids to that couple you don’t remember inviting will thank you for it.
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Well here’s a rant from the Bride to Be. So, when wedding/dinner invitations are being sent out, you can be sure a LOT of time and planning and decision-making went into the invite list. If people weren’t invited there was definitely a REASON: lack of money, lack of ability to have that many people attend, lack of space, etc. Probably some sacrifices took place on both sides and someone was not invited so that someone else could be accommodated. Heres my rant: Invited dinner guests, who clearly were the only ones on the invitation as Mr. and Mrs. BLANK — decide to bring their adult son and their sons girlfriend. And, another relative and his wife that were invited — she can’t make it so he invites his brother and brothers wife. And, others as well wrote their children in on the response. This just burns me up!!!! The guest list was a carefully drafted and planned execution. Our accommodations are only large enough for our specific guest list, and each guest dinner plate is well over $40. Children were not invited for a reason. It is OUR DAY. We want attending who we want. If someones family wasn’t invited, it was for a specific reason. This is soooooo rude and thoughtless. I can’t even imagine the rudeness of just writing other people into the response for a dinner.