Who Should Walk Down the Aisle First At Our Wedding?


Walking down the aisle with my mom and dad

Q: I want my mother and my father to walk me down the aisle at our wedding ceremony. Does that change who walks down first? What’s the correct order supposed to be?- Becca

A: Wedding processionals can be tricky, especially if you want to mix them up a bit (which you can totally can!). But don’t worry, there’s an easy answer to this because the order you’re suggesting (walking down with your mom AND dad) is actually customary at Jewish weddings. Even though I had a non-denominational wedding I did this as well, as I think the idea of being escorted down the aisle by both of your parents is really sweet. Remember that no matter what you decide, there’s really no wrong answer here.

OK, so here’s what your wedding processional could look like, in order of who should walk down first if you’re walking down with your mom.

  1. Officiant
  2. Bride’s grandparents
  3. Groom’s grandparents
  4. Bridesmaids and Groomsmen (they can walk down separately or you can pair them up)
  5. Best Man
  6. Maid of Honor (NOTE: The Best Man and Maid of Honor can also walk down together, which I like)
  7. Flower Girl/Ring Bearer
  8. Bride, escorted by Mother and Father

Just for comparison, here is what we did at our wedding (Note: My husband’s grandparents were not there, and my grandma was seated earlier. My husband’s parents are also divorced and we didn’t have a flower girl).

  1. Officiant
  2. Groom and his mom
  3. Groom’s father and step-mother
  4. Bridesmaids and Groomsmen (they were paired up)
  5. Maid of Honor and Best Man (also paired up)
  6. Bride, escorted by Mother and Father

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  1. says: Mcelyea

    My dad has passed away so my mother will be my only parent there and I don’t have no grandparents alive on my side so how should I pair everybody up to walk down aisle and how do they all go down isle bfor me the bride does what order I guess is what I’m asking thank you bride Kayla

  2. says: Melinda Miller

    I am a single mother and the father has never seen or given child support. My daughter and fiancee want to walk down the aisle last together. What is the order of the procession? He has both grandparents.