When it comes to love and relationships, I’m never one to rely on math to help us make decisions. But it is interesting to see the results of studies that claim to know what the best age to get married is.
We did a little digging and found two of the most recent studies that took a look at this topic. The first one we looked at was done in 2015 by Nick Wolfinger, a sociologist at the University of Utah. Published by the Institute of Family Studies, it said that the ideal age to get married was between 28-32. The research concluded that divorce rates were lowest (14%) for couples who got married in that age range, compared to around 40% for rest of the married demographic. And in fact, the closer you were to age 32 the better.
However a new study is not looking at actually percentages, but instead is doing some sort of “magical” formula that was conceived by journalist Brian Christian and cognitive scientist Tom Griffiths, coauthors of “Algorithms to Live By: The Computer Science of Human Decisions.” This new theory is based on what they’re calling the “37 percent rule.” More on that, below:
“The 37% Rule basically says that when you need to screen a range of options in a limited amount of time — be they candidates for a job, new apartments, or potential romantic partners — the best time to make a decision is when you’ve looked at 37% of those options.”
They’re assuming that most people looking for love are between the ages of 18-40 (tell that to my 60-year-old Aunt! LOL), so 26 would be roughly 37% into that range. Uh, ok.
While I do think there’s something to be said about wisdom coming with age and being in the right place at the right time, this definitely doesn’t take into account all those couples I know that were childhood sweethearts or met the “love of their lives” for the first time after the age of 50.
So, what do I think is the best age to get married? If I had to choose a study, I tend to side with the first one. I got married when I was 31 and I am so glad I waited to that age (mostly because I didn’t meet my husband until I was 28, but I don’t think I was really ready before that). But guess what? Nobody can tell you that answer! Sure, we can look at stats and studies and tea leaves if we had to. But as long as you feel like you’ve met “the one” for you, no scientist can tell you otherwise. 🙂