The maid of honor is honestly the unsung hero behind every bride’s big day — and not to mention the planning leading up to it. They’re often tasked with things like coordinating a bridal shower or bachelorette party, in addition to acting as pillars of emotional support whenever the bride (or bridesmaids) need it. Ultimately though, being a maid of honor is, well, an honor.
It’s not an easy job finding a good example of a maid of honor speech, and not to mention writing one straight from the heart.
That’s not to say that some brides don’t take advantage of — or absolutely terrorize — their maid of honors, as evidenced by a recent thread on Reddit, which asked “Past MOH/bridesmaids – what was the biggest bridezilla you’ve ever dealt with?”
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Check out some of the most ridiculous responses below.
No Blondes Allowed
She demanded that everyone wear these hideous dresses that we had to pay for. I was okay with it since they didn’t cost that much. She also demanded that all the girls dye their hair because she could be the ONLY blonde one there. I have naturally blonde hair and I’m not going to dye it for a day. She got pissed at me that I wouldn’t dye my hair and replaced me with a girl that shes known for years but recently become friends with. They used to talk crap behind each others backs.Sea bgf Kirby
A Wedding Planner At No Cost
[The bride] ‘promoted’ me to co-MOH so I would plan her entire wedding since I lived in the city it was happening and she wasn’t. I’m guessing between my outfit, her Bach party, and weird things I paid for for the wedding (like the card box) that wedding cost me over $2k and I didn’t travel for it!! We wore bright blue satin dresses with patent red heels. Her wedding was in one of the US’s major cities and this was pre-Uber and she didn’t have transportation for her wedding party so 3/4 bridesmaids (myself included) were standing outside in the pouring rain trying to get to the reception and once we got there the bride yelled at us for being late.LP Lady 15
Every Detail Already Decided
I was once in wedding where the bride not only made us wear all the same strappy shoes (she bought them for us on clearance and the pair I was given were far too small to the point my little toes stuck out the sides), she had us all wear fake press on nails so our hands matched (they started popping off during the ceremony). She also wanted us to use the same make up. I don’t mean the same shades or something semi reasonable like that, no we were to all use the same bottle of foundation, eye shadow pallet, blush, eyeliner, and mascara no matter our skin tone or the fact sharing some of that stuff is fucking unsanitary.mystic_burrito
An All-Around Nightmare
I wasn’t maid of honor but was expected to act like one. When I asked for info to set up [the bachelorette party], she wouldn’t give me the info. No one was available anyway. Later she would tell me I deprived her of this experience and should have ‘found a way’ to contact seven people I met once and didn’t have last names for. This was also before Facebook had even been invented. So finding people wasn’t easy.
While wedding planning, she would call me and vent for HOURS about ribbon colors and sh*t. I was in grad school at the time, working 30-40 hours a week and had an insane commute. I was sleeping 4-5 hours a night. When I had something to say? It’s HER TIME.4k3ssb
For the day of the wedding I need to have a French manicure, individual eyelash extensions, highlights and tinted brows. I can’t cut my hair because it will ruin the style she wants me to have. Also if I dare get pregnant it will ‘ruin everything’ and she’ll never forgive me.anonmoh
Bad Luck Bridesmaid
The first time I was asked to be a maid of honor, it was a dual MOH type situation, except the other ‘MOH’ was a dude. The bride was crazy. So crazy in fact that her engagement ended and the wedding was called off. Her fiancé was mortified how she was treating me and the guy, her ‘best friends.’ Needless to say our friendship ended soon after.
The second time I was asked to be a MOH, I was excited. However, that went away quickly after the demands about things I cannot control. Required that I wear my hair up because and I quote ‘you cannot wear your hair down because it is too thick and beautiful and will make my hair look bad.’ I obliged and paid $80 to have my hair done up, because all I know how to do is a ponytail, braid or bun, all which were not allowed.
I also had a height requirement, I am tall — 5’10. She told me that I could not be taller than her or her fiancé. Problem is, flat footed, I am taller than both of them. I pointed that fact out, and they changed it and said I could not be taller than the best man. Luckily the best man was 6’3. Then, at her wedding reception she basically attempted to treat me like her slave, I snapped, and she later apologized for it and admits she let the wedding get to her head. In total I spent $1.5K on her wedding.the anonymous you
Yikes! While these stories are indeed horrifying, being a maid of honor is often a great experience. All of the hard work pays off the moment you get to see your BFF walk down the aisle.