Caitlyn and Matt’s wedding at the Schlafly Tap Room in St. Louis, Missouri looked like SO much fun. Not only because of the unique wedding venue and DIY decor, but because the bride and groom look like the sweetest, most genuine couple ever. Case in point? Caitlyn and Matt decided to get married without a wedding party. Not for a lack of friends (they were surrounded by friends and family they loved), but because they didn’t want to lose sight of what the day was really about: their love.
“The biggest challenge we had in planning was to not get caught up in other people’s expectations of what a wedding should be,” said Caitlyn. “At the end of the day we wanted to be married and to have a laid back, fun day. Every time planning got stressful we reminded each other that the other details were unimportant.”
We love that attitude, and we love this wedding and absolutely gorgeous photos from one of our faves, Oldani Photography. See our favorite pics, and read more about the special day from the bride, below.
What made you choose your ceremony and reception venues?
We didn’t want a traditional wedding at all. Matt lived near Tower Grove Park while we were dating and we both really enjoy the farmers market there. When looking for a ceremony site The Music Stand was an easy choice. After stressing about finding a reception venue and perusing the internet repeatedly, we decided to go to The Schlafly Tap Room for dinner. While there we asked to see the upstairs and fell in love with the room. It has so much character and we knew it was perfect right away!
Did you have any DIY elements?
I made the flower girl dresses. I really enjoyed making them, but after the third dress I realized it was more work than expected. I love how they turned out and that the girls felt pretty in them, but if I had managed my time better the hems might have been a little straighter 🙂 I used the Georgia Twirl Top/Dress by Shwin Designs. The only adjustments I made was to even out the hem (I didn’t like the different lengths) and add a Peter Pan collar. I can’t get enough of the Peter Pan collars.
For the boys I made each of their bow ties. It was way easier than I thought it would be. I only spent an hour sewing, learning how to tie them took a lot longer. I used the free Mix and Match Bow Tie Pattern from Delia Creates.
We also made the light up M & C from our reception. We bought cardboard letters from JoAnn and I used an exacto knife to cut the front portion of the letter out. Then we spray painted and popped lights through the back. It was fairly easy but time consuming and semi-terrifying each time we poked a light through. The cardboard was flimsier than expected. This was a last minute project and it is probably my favorite thing that we did.
We provided the vases for our center pieces. They are just Dollar Store vases mixed with tin cans and spray painted different shades of gold. It was very easy and inexpensive.
The wall of fans was another easy project. My mom and I completed it in two days and the key to our success was hot glue and staples. This was another inexpensive project…our only cost was the pretty scrap book paper.
The heart garland that was strung along some of the tables my mom sewed for us. She just took the leftover paper and a heart paper punch to make the hearts, then sewed them together.
The invitations were also DIY. We kept them pretty simple so it wasn’t too stressful but it was time consuming. Paper Source was a huge help. I got an envelope lining kit, heat embosser and stamps there. The little added details made them look more professional.
What was the most memorable moment from your wedding?
Right after speeches and the first dance our DJ called everyone in the room onto the dance floor. It seemed so awkward and cheesy at first and everyone was nervously looking around. We got into a huge huddle and he started playing what seemed like the slowest version of Shout (a little bit louder now…) that I have ever heard. I remember shooting Matt a terrified look and him reassuringly squeezing my hand. As the music picked up everyone started laughing and having a great time. I love to think back on that moment. Matt and I are so lucky to have started our marriage out surrounded by the people we love most smiling, laughing, and just being happy together. If the DJ had asked us if he could do this I would have said no because I tend to stay away from anything that puts me in the center of a room. I’m so glad he didn’t give us the option.