How to Create the Perfect Bedroom: Pillows

how to arrange bed pillows

You go through stages in life: When you’re a kid, you want to do everything you can to NOT have to make your bed. When you’re in college and those first few years after you get out, you’re so happy nobody is there to tell you to make your bed that you never do. Then, if you’re anything like me, by the time you get your first place or move in with your future husband or partner, you spend way too much time figuring out how to make it look and feel like a hotel bed. But, it turns out that building a perfect bed is not as as easy as it seems. From deciding which mattress to get to what thread count to buy or how many pillows you need for a queen or king bed, there are way too many options out there. Why can’t someone just create a practical guide to making the perfect bed? Well, that’s what I hope to do in this new series. While I’m certainly no design expert, I’ve done enough research to pretend like I’m one. Whether you’re living in your first place, cohabiting or are in the midst of creating your dream wedding registry, hopefully this guide will take some of the guesswork out of figuring out which sheets, pillows, mattresses, and comforters to go to bed with.

different types of pillows

Now…to the nitty gritty. Pillows! I decided to make pillows the focus of the first post because I actually just bought more pillows than I ever thought possible for our bed: 8. Yes, 8. Now, before you get nervous you should know that you absolutely do not have to get this many. AT ALL. It’s a personal preference, and based on the infographic below you’ll see it’s not necessary. In fact, you can stick with four and stack them one on top of the another for a perfectly simple look. However, if you’re anything like me, the thought of filling your bed with cozy pillows sounds like heaven. But what’s the best way to arrange them?

First, you should know your pillow type. The image above is a good general guide to pillow sizes that are typically available. Now, the second (and much harder) part is figuring out where to buy them. Pillow type is a personal preference, and knowing whether you like down, down alternative, memory foam, or buckwheat pillows (yes, these exist) will lead you in the right direction. If you’re a fan of down pillows like I am, consistently recommended brands include Pacific Coast, Cuddledown, and The Company Store. Look for down pillows with a fill power of at least 600. Your quality pillows should be your sleeping ones (IE: a standard or king size), while your decorative ones (IE: bolster, 16″ square”) are simply that: for decoration. There’s no need to spend a lot of money on them.

Once you know which type of pillows you want, you can figure out what arrangement works best for you. While there are a ton of options out there, just remember there are no hard and fast rules to live by (the pillow police are not going to come knocking on your door if you have one decorative pillow instead of two). I just see them as guides, especially if you have no idea where to start.

I based the infographic below on a king bed, but if you have a queen bed you would simply use a standard pillow size instead of a king, and two euros instead of three. Also, keep in mind that the infographic below does not include a stacked pillow option. Check out Roost and  The Design Wotcha for more examples of those.

Now, for the real moment of truth! How many pillows do you have?!

how to arrange bed pillows


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