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Expert Q&A: Bonnie Marie from My Weddings and More

 

I am definitely one of those brides who daydreamed about having an Italian wedding. If only I knew of a relative with a castle in Tuscany or a seaside villa in Capri! Then I woke up and realized I was a German Polish Jew and should snap out of it. But what if I didn’t want to?

If you have the time and resources (and a group of family and friends who are willing to make the journey overseas…who wouldn’t WANT to?!) planning an Italian destination wedding is not out of the question. But where do you start? I spoke with Bonnie Marie, an Italian wedding planner from My Weddings and More about the process, and her advice for brides-to-be looking to say “Lo Voglio!” in Italy.

Woman Getting Married: If a couple is dreaming about a wedding in Italy, where do they start?

Bonnie Marie: There seem to be two types of couples that want to get married in Italy:  first time travelers and return travelers.  The first-timers know they need a professional to help them plan their trip and wedding, so that’s what they begin researching online. Picking the right planner is a personal choice based on good ‘ole gut feeling because a destination wedding planner is much more than an event organizer.  S/he is a travel planner, paperwork expert, personal assistant, bargain hunter, dream interpreter, hand-holder, family counselor AND multi-lingual!  A destination wedding planner acts on behalf of the bride and groom until they arrive in Italy, so the relationship becomes very close to BFF’s.

The second couple type actually has a harder time starting off. Many have been to Italy before and fell in love with it, so they already have an idea of the atmosphere they want to relive on their wedding day. The problem is finding someone to help them do that within their budget. This couple usually starts off DIY and soon realize that the web offers too much for them to sift through, so they start looking for professionals as a second step.

How should they go about figuring out WHERE in Italy to get married? 

Most full-service wedding planning sites promote a number of locations based on the atmosphere the couple is looking for (beachfront, lakeside, countryside) and the number of guests. You don’t have to have a large guest count to get married in a castle in Tuscany–castles come in all shapes and sizes! Paperwork logistics differ considerably from city to city and when requirements mandate going to the consulate in big cities like Rome, Naples, or Milan, the process takes up valuable vacation time from the couple. Although this is not a problem for UK couples since the UK Consulate mails paperwork directly to the wedding hall, it is a problem for US and Australian nationals who need to get a sworn statement from their embassies and then have it legalized at an Italian courthouse.

For a 100-person guest list, what’s a reasonable budget a couple should plan for in order to get married in Italy? 

25,000 euros is a safe number to start at and that includes a photographer. What cannot be stressed enough is the sheer ecstasy of the locations, the exquiteness of the celebratory meals, and the overall style and elegance of the setup.

What services does your company provide? How much does it cost?

We provide a variety of options: full-service planning, day of only, paperwork only, location scouts, DIY referrals, plus travel and tour assistance. Wedding planning fees are a flat rate based on location, number of guests and type of ceremony, starting at 1,500 euros. There are no hidden costs with us, any discounts are passed on to the customer.

Is is difficult for U.S. citizens to obtain a marriage license in Italy? How does that process work?

The paperwork is much simpler than it seems and is very similar to what you would need to do at home to get a marriage license. The only extra steps are getting apostilles on birth certificates and divorce decrees and obtaining sworn statements from the Italian Consulate in the US and the US Consulate in Italy (the former can actually be done in Italy instead of in the US). Once you file paperwork with the wedding office they have the couple sign an ‘intent to marry’ (in lieu of issuing a marriage license). The civil ceremony in Italy is as old as the Colosseum, as are the articles of law governing married couples which surprisingly enough, reflect the deep-rooted sense of equality reflected in Roman law. For more info on these laws and customs (such as the fact that Italian women do not traditionally take their husband’s last names), click here.

What are some of your favorite spots in Italy to get married? If you had to choose, which one do you think is the most beautiful that couples wouldn’t automatically think of?

Wow, the million dollar question …. how to choose a favorite spot in Italy :)
I got married in Florence in 2003, so that is for sure the one location closest to my heart. The Red Room is fabulous because although it is a distinct color (all the upholstery and walls are really red!)  and it contains some pompous baroque pieces (including a truly enormous mirror), it is an embracing ambiance even for elopements.Backstage bonus? Paperwork for US and UK is completed seamlessly in town, the wedding offices are easy to work with, pricing is average (700 euros), and they include music with the ceremony (usually Vivaldi or Verdi). A wide variety of backdrops are available for post-ceremony photos: strolling around town you’ll get the duomo, Ponte Vecchio, Arno Riverbank; walk across the bridge to the Boboli gardens or the Bobolino rose gardens for florals; hop in a car for a 15 minute ride to sunflower fields and vineyards for a Tuscan memory to last forever.

The Red Room (Sala Rossa) in Florence

The most heartwarming ceremony I’ve staged was on a boat off the Cinque Terre coast.  There is a charming retreat where I put all the couple’s family, and the wedding day was a true blessing on the Mediterranean sea ending with a scrumptuous seafood feast at a local restaurant.

Cinque Terre

Location revival: Venice. I always thought it was too touristy, too packed, and too chaotic.  But there is just no other place on earth like Venice. (I had two weddings there this year!)

The Rialto Bridge in Venice

Last but not least: The true lovers birthplace – Verona (where Rome and Juliet had their courtship).  The city government has worked hard to offer a selection of historic and exquisite locations, service is top-notch, and the area is worth discovering.

Juliet's famed balcony in Verona

If I could, I’d get married a million more times in Italy!

Thanks, Bonnie Marie!

To find out more about Bonnie Marie and My Weddings and More, visit their website.

Planning your wedding? Get help with my super no-frills Easy Wedding Planning Guide.

NOTE: This is NOT a sponsored post…We don’t have any of those on WGM. I simply interview companies/event designers/planners, etc., that I think are good at what they do!

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Expert Q&A: DJ Vida Ventura from Scratch Weddings

DJ Vida Ventura

As I’ve mentioned before, the DJ at my wedding went a little “rogue.” Despite spending months working on a 70+ song playlist (which the DJ company provided an easy online database for), selecting songs that we would like (The Smiths, Arcade Fire, T.V. On the Radio) AND our parents and their friends would like (Lionel Ritchie, Otis Redding, Neil Diamond) the DJ managed to overlook 90% of the songs we asked for. When he did finally get one right, it would be the wrong version (he thought Lynyrd Skynyrd’s ”Free Bird” was a rap song).

After countless trips up to the DJ stand to ask “What IS this?!,” I finally decided to give up and give in. Besides, after my 5th glass of Prosecco I didn’t care if I was dancing to the Isley Brothers or David Bowie. Thankfully, when I told the owner what happened a week later, he ended up giving us a partial refund, taking $500 off the final price. However, I would have much rather paid $500 more to have a DJ that understood what we wanted.

That led me to reach out to Scratch Weddings, a DJ company that matches up world-famous DJs for weddings and events, so I could find out what bride-to-be’s should do to get a DJ they’ll be happy with. Scratch started as a DJ Academy in 2002 (co-developed by Jam Master Jay of Run DMC), and has since become a leading source of marquee DJs. With over 15,000 weddings and events under their belts, they’ve pleased clients ranging from major luxury hotel chains (W) and cool stores (Urban Outfitters) to major television networks (MTV).

I spoke with one of their top DJ’s, Vida Ventura, about the DJ selection process, and how a couple can make sure they get the right DJ for their musical tastes. The Q&A is below:

Woman Getting Married: What should bride-to-be’s look for in a DJ company? How do they know it’s a good fit for them?

DJ Vida Ventura: I shop at a store where there’s a giant rock with a policy that should apply to DJ companies, too:

Rule 1: The customer is always right.

Rule 2: If the customer is ever wrong, reread Rule 1

Any DJ company that does more talking than listening probably doesn’t have a customer-first mentality. If you and your fiancé take your music seriously, don’t settle for less than someone who truly knows your favorite tracks and artists and can demonstrate that expertise. One size does not fit all!

You should also make sure your DJ company has 100% positive reviews on sites like WeddingWire, The Knot and Yelp, and is listed with the Better Business Bureau in the unlikely event you need help resolving a business dispute. Make sure the company has full liability insurance coverage, because your wedding venue is going to require it. Finally, make sure the DJ you select is someone you’d actually want to be part of your special day.

How can a couple make sure they have the same musical taste as the DJ? Should a couple ask the DJ what music he/she knows best and is most comfortable playing?

A DJ’s biography should reveal what kind of genres they know. If all they’ve done is spin weddings, you can expect less musical range and skill than someone who has held residencies in clubs or lounges, or a DJ who has opened for touring indy rock bands. So your first step should be to review the professional background of the DJ you are considering.

When you speak with the DJ, you should absolutely ask questions about his or her style and comfort in spinning various genres, including those preferred by the wedding couple. Listen to the prospective DJ’s mixing style. Talk about whether you like scratching and mashups, and whether you mind frequent transitions as opposed to longer tracks.

Do you recommend the bride/groom giving a playlist to the DJ, or letting the DJ do their own thing? Can a couple give you a 100-song list of songs they want to hear, or is that a bad idea?

It’s never a bad idea to give a bride what she wants! I welcome as much input as I can get, because it ensures that the bride and groom will hear all their favorites all night long. They won’t know exactly when a particular track is going to play, and hearing it will make the party that much better.

That said, there are couples who provide pretty general musical instructions and that’s fine, too. Good DJ’s are experts at reading the crowd and keeping the dance floor full.

How do you keep a happy medium between the older adults at a wedding and the younger guests who want to listen to bands their parents have never heard of?

One of the advantages of hiring a DJ is the opportunity to include a variety of music to please a wide range of guests. A DJ has to seamlessly move from genre to genre to keep all guests, both young and old, on the dance floor. Guests are surprised we can transition from disco to hip-hop to Ella Fitzgerald to top 40. And we do it in a way that builds energy and keeps every generation involved. One trick I like to use to perk up the oldsters in the room is to spin a modern cover of an older song.

Are there any musical trends at weddings you’re seeing recently?

Mashups are certainly in. The popularity of the TV show Glee has shown how much fun it is to take a song like Elvis Presley’s original “Can’t Help Falling in Love” and mash it with UB40′s remake. You can also mix two different tunes, such as “Holiday” by Madonna with Lady GaGa’s “Alejandro” so that the beats and lyrics flow together.

Is there a formula you tend to follow for each wedding (such as slower music at dinner, dance music after), or is every wedding different?

Every wedding is different. Some have a string quartet or a jazz ensemble during cocktails, while others ask me to play music the bride and groom love, but the stuff that’s not particularly danceable. I actually recorded a video on this topic, along with a Scratch colleague, Jay Jung. He looks at the wedding music very scientifically, like a bell curve, starting slowly and building energy. Here’s a link to the video.

Even though I gave my wedding DJ a list of songs I wanted, he actually played the wrong versions of several of them, or forgot to play them altogether. Do you recommend a couple checking in with the DJ and going over their intended playlist before the event?

Yes. Music is such an important part of the wedding, you’ll want to make sure all the worry and doubt is removed well ahead of the reception. Part of the Scratch Weddings process is to meet in the weeks prior to the wedding to confirm details of the play list and the no-play list, the order of events during the wedding day and even the specific pronunciations of wedding party VIPs, so no names get butchered. Our advice to couples is to be very precise about what songs absolutely must be played, and even the specific version of the song that should be used. Details are important.

DJ Vida Ventura got her start at Lower East Side hot spots and LA nightclubs, and has since gone on to highly-sought after DJ appearances everywhere from Munich to the Winter Music Conference and Art Basel in Miami. Vida’s style is “eclectic and energetic,” and she says she is passionate about bringing her skills to couples looking for a fresh, fun take on a wedding DJ. “I love to mix genres and play everything from James Brown to Michael Jackson to Beyoncé in the same set and appeal to everyone at the wedding.”

To learn more about Scratch Weddings or to book them for your wedding, click here.

NOTE: This is NOT a sponsored post…We don’t have any of those on WGM. I simply interview companies/event designers/planners, etc., that I think are good at what they do!

 

Planning your wedding? Get help with my super no-frills Easy Wedding Planning Guide.

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